Dating Vs. Hanging Out
This week in class we discussed the differences between dating and hanging out. Over the years hanging out seems to be making more of an appearance and has even started to replace dating. As I was sitting in class I couldn't help but think of a talk that was given years ago by Elder Oaks about this very topic. In his talk he explains exactly what hanging out entails, "Hanging out consists of numbers of young men and young women joining together in some group activity. It is very different from dating." He goes on to explain that one reason hanging out seems more favorable to the younger generation is because of the lack of commitment level that is expected in hanging out.
Later on in his talk Oaks defines dating, "Unlike hanging out, dating is not a team sport. Dating is pairing off to experience the kind of one-on-one association and temporary commitment that can lead to marriage in some rare and treasured cases." Dating is a good way to get to know somone on as more personal level. Dating shouldn't been seen as a huge commitment but rather a time to get to know many different people and decide what characteristics you want in a spouse.
In class we also talked about the the similarities between the responsibilities of men in dating and in marriage. I thought the correlation was really neat. The three responsibilities of men in dating are (1) plan ahead (2) pay for, and (3) pair off. The three responsibilites for me in marriage are (1) preside (2) provide, and (3) protect. Both sets of numbers correlate together and are good guidelines to follow while dating and in marriage.
Here is link to the rest of the talk, "Dating Vs. Hanging Out" by Elder Oaks
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