Divorce

 

Divorce is becoming more common and widely accepted throughout the world today. A large part of this trend is due to the "no fault divorce law." This law was widely accepted by all fifty states in 1985. Once this was established it was a lot easier for a couple to get divorced, which greatly increased the divorce rate. Married couples who used to have to prove that their spouse was the "bad guy" and that there was a vital reason for divorce, now do not have anything at all to prove in order to end their marriage contract. 

Research has shown that divorce has numerous negative effects on the family as well as the community. The problems caused by divorce range from big to small in categories such as financial problems and emotional well being. Divorce is also very difficult on children. Children that are affected by divorce have lower self esteem, more physical and emotional problems, higher rates of substance abuse, lower levels of trust, and lower levels of marital commitment.

There are many resources to help families who are thinking about divorce and those who have already been affected by divorce. One of my favorite talks on this topic is by Elder Oaks. Here are a few quotes from his talked labeled "Divorce.":

"A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive toward perfection."

"You should do all within your power to preserve your marriage."

"All who have been through divorce know the pan and need the healing power and hope that come from the Atonement."

"For most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance."